In transition.....That is certainly what my parents are in. They moved out of the apartment today, only to move into the extended stay hotel.... hopefully only for a week or so. It seems like this journey with them has taken forever. I know the impact this has had on my direct life, and it wasn't my house, it was my parents.
This week a tornado destroyed 1/3 of the town of Joplin...and killed so many. The devastation is sooooo overwhelming. I can't even imagine it. And if it took my parents a year to start to get back to normal, with a new house... I can't even imagine what its going to be fore the folks in Joplin. I think about it, then I think back to Hurricane Katrina and the devastation created from that. New Orleans is still not back to what it once was... and that was YEARS ago.
No change for my sister-in-law... they have moved her out of intensive care and into another building in the hospital. She is stable... but still on the ventilator. They talked to my MIL about moving her to a nursing home. I guess this didn't go over very well. Once again, I can't even imagine.
I look around and see how much bigger everyone Else's problems are. I say to myself....MY PROBLEMS ARE MINUSCULE... QUITE WHINING!
So i did.... no more whining.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Monday, May 23, 2011
The beginning of Summer
Last week marked the end of the School year for two of my girls. I now have a 2nd grader and a Kindergartner. Imagining the next one in a uniform next fall is overwhelming. They sure do grow up fast.
Summer is off and running... and its a bumpy start. Phil's sister is still in the hospital on a ventilator. They have put in a tracheotomy and put the vent in that way instead of down her throat. Late last week she was able to breathe for about an hour on her own before they had to turn the machine back on. She is still sedated and we don't know if this is going to be permanent or if she will ever get better. Right now... all we can do is pray and wait.
Amy my good friend did have her little gift from God given to her on the 13th and made her way home to us on the 17th... Little Allie Beth is just precious. Poor Daddy Dale.... had to go back on rotation on the 18th, but at least Amy's mom Deborah was hear to be with her. They will leave tomorrow to drive back to AL so Grandpa can see her and they can be there for his retirement party. Then on the 5th Amy's hometown church will have a "tea" for her.. not a shower but a tea... can't get more southern than that. Dale will finish his rotation on the 1st, and fly into AL. They will come home the 6th or the 7th.
In the mean time my other wonderful friend Aimee is going to watch the girls for us. What a blessing to have these two wonderful ladies to help me out. My girls are so excited to play with Taylor, Roman, and Emelyn again now that they are back. And Amy will be back to watching my girls on the 13th....hopefully by that time Mom and Dad will be back in their HOME.
That's right... finally maybe the end to the bumpy road for Mom and Dad at least will happen sooner than later. Its hard to believe its almost been a year since the fire burned their house to the ground. They are definitely tired of apartment living. But they next few weeks will be bumpy again....In with flames, and out with a bang. The builder told mom and dad they would most definitely be in by the end of May. So they signed the 30 day notice to the apartment complex to be out the 31st. And the apartment is rented right after them.... however... last Friday they said, you might see if they will let you stay an extra couple weeks... we won't be ready.... so the movers are coming on Thursday to take what little furniture they have (that's a whole other story), and put it in the basement of the new house. Then they will move into an extended stay hotel until they get the house done.... Please God we pray for sooner than later.
Soooo this summer is off to a bumpy start. But hopefully by the end of it we will have lots of stories to tell.
Morgan starts summer camp on the 31st. Desiree will be back in the states and visiting us from the 9th thru the 25th. Morgans birthday will be on Fathers day this year, and her party will be on the 18th. Mom has her other knee surgery planned for the 27th of June. Then we will have rehab on it.
In the meantime... I think we are going to try and relax in the pool and have a good time. I want to make sure i soak in all the memories... the girls are just getting too big too fast.
Summer is off and running... and its a bumpy start. Phil's sister is still in the hospital on a ventilator. They have put in a tracheotomy and put the vent in that way instead of down her throat. Late last week she was able to breathe for about an hour on her own before they had to turn the machine back on. She is still sedated and we don't know if this is going to be permanent or if she will ever get better. Right now... all we can do is pray and wait.
Amy my good friend did have her little gift from God given to her on the 13th and made her way home to us on the 17th... Little Allie Beth is just precious. Poor Daddy Dale.... had to go back on rotation on the 18th, but at least Amy's mom Deborah was hear to be with her. They will leave tomorrow to drive back to AL so Grandpa can see her and they can be there for his retirement party. Then on the 5th Amy's hometown church will have a "tea" for her.. not a shower but a tea... can't get more southern than that. Dale will finish his rotation on the 1st, and fly into AL. They will come home the 6th or the 7th.
In the mean time my other wonderful friend Aimee is going to watch the girls for us. What a blessing to have these two wonderful ladies to help me out. My girls are so excited to play with Taylor, Roman, and Emelyn again now that they are back. And Amy will be back to watching my girls on the 13th....hopefully by that time Mom and Dad will be back in their HOME.
That's right... finally maybe the end to the bumpy road for Mom and Dad at least will happen sooner than later. Its hard to believe its almost been a year since the fire burned their house to the ground. They are definitely tired of apartment living. But they next few weeks will be bumpy again....In with flames, and out with a bang. The builder told mom and dad they would most definitely be in by the end of May. So they signed the 30 day notice to the apartment complex to be out the 31st. And the apartment is rented right after them.... however... last Friday they said, you might see if they will let you stay an extra couple weeks... we won't be ready.... so the movers are coming on Thursday to take what little furniture they have (that's a whole other story), and put it in the basement of the new house. Then they will move into an extended stay hotel until they get the house done.... Please God we pray for sooner than later.
Soooo this summer is off to a bumpy start. But hopefully by the end of it we will have lots of stories to tell.
Morgan starts summer camp on the 31st. Desiree will be back in the states and visiting us from the 9th thru the 25th. Morgans birthday will be on Fathers day this year, and her party will be on the 18th. Mom has her other knee surgery planned for the 27th of June. Then we will have rehab on it.
In the meantime... I think we are going to try and relax in the pool and have a good time. I want to make sure i soak in all the memories... the girls are just getting too big too fast.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Stop and smell the roses.
No change for Phil's sister. And the doctors are talking about a long term vent. That is not good. This is hard for everyone. I just pray those 3 boys can heal. Heal from everything they have been thru, exposed to, about to go thru, and to live with out.
It is amazing how some of us take the wonderful things in our life and don't stop to appreciate them every day. I so appreciate the family I was born into. I can't imagine not having the love I always have had surrounding me and supporting me.
I remember how I thought my parents were awful when I was little and how I was going to "run away" because my mother was awful. If I had awful, I can't begin to image the NIGHTMARES other children were living in. If only I had been able to peek into their homes and see just how amazing it was for me.
I am so blessed to have what I have. Right now. I appreciate everything a little more. Even in this tragedy for my husband and his family, I can see what I need to be thankful for.
Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus. I Thes 5:18
It is amazing how some of us take the wonderful things in our life and don't stop to appreciate them every day. I so appreciate the family I was born into. I can't imagine not having the love I always have had surrounding me and supporting me.
I remember how I thought my parents were awful when I was little and how I was going to "run away" because my mother was awful. If I had awful, I can't begin to image the NIGHTMARES other children were living in. If only I had been able to peek into their homes and see just how amazing it was for me.
I am so blessed to have what I have. Right now. I appreciate everything a little more. Even in this tragedy for my husband and his family, I can see what I need to be thankful for.
Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus. I Thes 5:18
Friday, May 13, 2011
New Beginnings + Uncertainies = God's Perfect Plan
I had been meaning to start posting on this blog many many months ago. I just never got around to it. I have spent the last two weeks checking one of my closest friends blogs as she waited for her baby. I kept refreshing and going back and forth, hoping for news of the new life they would have. I even told her more than a few weeks ago to start putting her blog up and updating it every day so she would be sure to have it all recorded. I have always had the best of intentions or doing that myself... Yet I haven't quite made it.
Obviously you see I am posting today. This day, as the last week has been a total roller coaster ride. I was reminded that our futures are uncertain, and we don't know if tomorrow will always come. Be that figuratively or reality.
As I have watched my friend blog about the wonderful journey she has been on to bring precious Allie Beth into the world, the excitement has been building, and my heart has been filling with joy for her and her new family that is just beginning. And as happy as I am for her, my heart was also breaking in another part of my world.
My husband's sister fell into a coma, and has been on a ventilator since Monday morning. My heart breaks for her. It breaks for my mother in law, and my 3 nephews. And my heart not only breaks but aches for my husband and his hurt. He hasn't been particularly close or in the day to day lives of his sister or his nephews for quite some time now. It doesn't mean he doesn't love her, because its his sister, of course he does. Our family was just going in a different direction than hers was, and we just had different goals for where we wanted our families to be. So now, I watch my husband in pain. I want to make it go away, and I can't. Even though he knows he has been right to distance himself from her... he feels guilty for having done so, as if he betrayed her in some way.
Likewise for my Mother-in-Law. It is no secret that there is a pretty substantial divide between her and I, but today, I didn't see the woman that has hurt me or hurt my husband. I saw a woman whose child is about to die, struggling not to melt into the floor. I saw a woman who is trying to hold herself together for 3 grandsons at home about to lose their mother. I can not even begin to imagine how horrific it is for her. I can't even begin to put myself in her shoes. As I do, the enormity of the emotions begins to wash over me and i shrug it off because I can't allow myself to go there and feel it. She doesn't have that choice. Its not going anywhere. She has to face it. That too makes me ache for her.
As she left the hospital today, she came up to me and told me how good a wife I was, and that I was a good mother, much better than she had ever been. She choked up at the end. I am in no place to judge her. I was in no place to say Thank You. I just told her I did the best that I could. She broke down in sobs and walked away.
That's the point tonight. Always do the best that you can. That's all we can ask of ourselves or anyone else. You can't have regrets if you do your best. No matter the situation, and no matter if tomorrow never comes, if you have done your best.... then the best happened.
Tomorrow may be the last for my husband's sister, and it may not. Either way, its a beginning, and I will do my best in everything I do. I don't want to have a tinge of regret in my heart.
Commit to the lord whateverr you do, and your plans will succeed. Proverbs 16:3
Obviously you see I am posting today. This day, as the last week has been a total roller coaster ride. I was reminded that our futures are uncertain, and we don't know if tomorrow will always come. Be that figuratively or reality.
As I have watched my friend blog about the wonderful journey she has been on to bring precious Allie Beth into the world, the excitement has been building, and my heart has been filling with joy for her and her new family that is just beginning. And as happy as I am for her, my heart was also breaking in another part of my world.
My husband's sister fell into a coma, and has been on a ventilator since Monday morning. My heart breaks for her. It breaks for my mother in law, and my 3 nephews. And my heart not only breaks but aches for my husband and his hurt. He hasn't been particularly close or in the day to day lives of his sister or his nephews for quite some time now. It doesn't mean he doesn't love her, because its his sister, of course he does. Our family was just going in a different direction than hers was, and we just had different goals for where we wanted our families to be. So now, I watch my husband in pain. I want to make it go away, and I can't. Even though he knows he has been right to distance himself from her... he feels guilty for having done so, as if he betrayed her in some way.
Likewise for my Mother-in-Law. It is no secret that there is a pretty substantial divide between her and I, but today, I didn't see the woman that has hurt me or hurt my husband. I saw a woman whose child is about to die, struggling not to melt into the floor. I saw a woman who is trying to hold herself together for 3 grandsons at home about to lose their mother. I can not even begin to imagine how horrific it is for her. I can't even begin to put myself in her shoes. As I do, the enormity of the emotions begins to wash over me and i shrug it off because I can't allow myself to go there and feel it. She doesn't have that choice. Its not going anywhere. She has to face it. That too makes me ache for her.
As she left the hospital today, she came up to me and told me how good a wife I was, and that I was a good mother, much better than she had ever been. She choked up at the end. I am in no place to judge her. I was in no place to say Thank You. I just told her I did the best that I could. She broke down in sobs and walked away.
That's the point tonight. Always do the best that you can. That's all we can ask of ourselves or anyone else. You can't have regrets if you do your best. No matter the situation, and no matter if tomorrow never comes, if you have done your best.... then the best happened.
Tomorrow may be the last for my husband's sister, and it may not. Either way, its a beginning, and I will do my best in everything I do. I don't want to have a tinge of regret in my heart.
Commit to the lord whateverr you do, and your plans will succeed. Proverbs 16:3
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